I work in an assisted living community, and this is one of the best books I’ve seen for adult children struggling to engage with their aging parents in discussing the difficult life transitions they’re facing, from needing more help in the home, giving up driving, or having to move into senior housing or assisted living, among other issues.
I give many copies away and recommend it frequently. One of my clients, after reading the book, told me that it helped her understand her parents’ perspective and what they were going through much better, and gave her strategies for helping the whole family cope with what was going on in their lives. It’s difficult for parents to stop being parents, and for adult children to have to become the decision makers and assume control.
It’s a messy game being a caregiver of aging parents where things can fall apart at the worse possible time. This inspiring TED Talk by Brené Brown reminds us that the shame of unrealistic expectations can unwind our most determined efforts to do the right thing. It also reminds us why, when we’re open to it, caregiver support groups can literally save our lives…