Adult children are frustrated by their aging parent’s unwillingness to share important information about their plans, health or finances. The withholding weakens the caregiving partnership and sets everyone up for poor outcomes. So why are they so secretive at the worse possible time?
Some people believe it is generational where personal information is held more closely to the social vest. Maybe, but I believe there is more going on here, deeper currents reflecting a need for control in world of fading choices. At their core secrets share the same power as the blunt “no” without comment.
I have shared this deeply moving, three minute video with audiences throughout the United States and Canada. No matter how many times I’ve watched it, I am always inspired by the love and courage of these older adults who insisted on defining life on their own terms amid losses and heartache…