David Solie

When Someone Deeply Listens To You

  We are all so busy with the perpetual motion of our obligations and mega to-do lists that the thought of slowing down and deeply listening to someone, anyone, is down right painful.  “I don’t have time for this” we…

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Getting Back On Track

It’s easy to get off track with aging parents.  Complicated decisions, intense conversations and setbacks on issues that you thought were taken care of are just a few of the “uncouplers” that come with caregiving.  The good news is that…

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Breathing Underwater

We adult children look at aging and say no thanks, not for me, best to keep a safe distance. But aging is patient, biding its time, confident of its purpose. From seemingly nowhere, our safe distance collapses and a new…

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Aging In Place Inventory

This five-factor inventory is designed to help families and advisors better understand the sustainability issues of older adults who are aging in place. Each factor of the inventory is assessed as either green, orange or red based on an estimation…

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When the Bottom Falls Out

Long term care planning is another “hot spot” for aging parents. Attempts by family members to pressure, warn, or scare an older adults into planning decisions usually fail. That’s why we created the When The Bottom Falls Out Mind Map.…

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Special Offer

  For a limited time when you purchase a deck of Aging Parents Dance Cards, you will also receive a complimentary copy of the audio CD Closing the Communication Gap with Aging Parents (both items will be shipped together).  …

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Moving Control Options Beyond A Zero Sum Context

In their struggle to preserve control, aging parents may see their choices as primarily all or nothing decisions, a zero sum battle of wills with only winners and losers.  Unfortunately, this narrow perspective misses what appears to be  a more…

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Find The Path…

There are three critical aspects to building a partnership with aging parents:Conversation, Collaboration and Accommodation. 1. You have to find a voice that “resonates” with their need to be acknowledged as well as preserve some semblance of dignity amid the…

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Sometimes winning is no solution…

It’s a long game filled with constant temptations to prove you are right.  The real art of caring for aging parents may be having the insight and discipline to know what to ignore.  Looking back, these will be the moments…

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