David Solie

Disclosure for Adult Children

I receive a steady flow of inquires from adult children about what the future holds for them and their aging parents.  Most of them sense some sort of tipping point is near and with it a turn of events where…

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Inconvenient Eulogy

  Inconvenient Eulogy  by David Solie   Even when things are going your way, Words don’t come easy on funeral day. Mourners turn up with guarded belief, Awaiting your words of pain and grief.   But others arrive with their…

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Resist Punitive Perfection

Pointing out errors of memory or cognition to our aging parents proves nothing…Period…We all will suffer the same fate when we are firmly in their shoes and we will equally resent being called out for something we can’t control…Instead of…

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Steady On…

Things periodically fall apart with our aging parents no matter how hard we try to avoid conflict.   Stay calm and let these episodes have their moment and then pass on. There’s no time to hold a grudge or prove who’s…

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And Take My Waking Slow….

  The Waking Theodore Roethke (1954) I Wake to sleep, and take my waking slow. I feel my fate in what I cannot fear. I learn by going where I have to go. We think by feeling. What is there…

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Becoming Better Partners With Our Aging Parents

This is a 15-minute, “quick start” audio blog about my theory on the psychological developmental tasks of older adults and how to use it to improve our partnership with them. Below are three key tracks I’ve uploaded from my audio…

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Finding the whole person disguised as a patient

Over the last twenty years, a new approach to healthcare called integrative medicine has focused attention on understanding and treating the “whole person.”  This means that psychological and spiritual factors as well as physical bodies needed to be included in…

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The Peace of Wild Things

I come into the peace of wild things who do not tax their lives with forethought or grief. I come into the presence of still water. And I feel above me the day-blind stars waiting with their light. For a…

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