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Observations and commentary on aging, caregiving, and the complex journey through the second half of life.

Why Do We Teach CPR, But Not Caregiving?

Posted by on Feb 19, 2017 in Advisors, Aging Parents, Boomers, Caregiver

Indeed, why don’t we? This article by Dr. Richard Lindsey discusses how he enlisted help from Virginia’s college and university students to invent an app or product to improve the health of caregivers…This is the kind of intergenerational creativity we need to help ease the burden for everyone…

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Higher Levels of Depression in Married Caregivers

Posted by on Feb 18, 2017 in Aging Parents, Alzheimer's Disease, Caregiver

“We also found that caregivers who are married and caring for a family member with a diagnosis other than cancer, such as Alzheimer’s disease, had higher levels of depression,” says Debra Parker-Oliver, professor of family and community medicine at the University of Missouri School of Medicine.

This excellent article from the University of Missouri documents that the 34 million caregivers of terminally ill loved ones are unacknowledged, anxious, depressed and sadly not being offered treatment that would help them cope with the inordinate stress they must endure.

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Home Unfurnishing Your Parent’s Stuff

Posted by on Feb 15, 2017 in Aging Parents, Caregiver, Siblings

This is an excellent article by Richard Eisenberg that offers eight strategies for systematically paring down the stuff of aging parents that apparently nobody wants. It’s a necessary but ultimately awkward ritual of sorting with an eye towards aggressively casting aside articles that have both deep personal meaning but essentially zero value to the current generation.

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Sibling Rules

Posted by on Feb 11, 2017 in Aging Parents, Caregiver, Siblings

It’s a fact of family life: roles are cut in stone. Stop trying to change a sibling who for the most part resents you for having the audacity to think you need to fix him or her.

Accurately assess what a sibling will and will not do for an aging parent. If their contribution is zero, then zero is is and move on.

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Augmented Eternity: Ready or Not

Posted by on Jan 29, 2017 in Advisors, Aging Parents, Boomers

Technology is rewriting yet another chapter in the book on death. In addition to forestalling physical death with machines that can breath for us when are efforts fail, pump blood when our hearts gives out or need repair, or float our brains in a medically induced coma to buy time to neurologically regroup, it is now making it possible to for all of us to have a digital afterlife that goes beyond a retrospective memorial of who we were.

We are talking about chatbots created from our personal data including emails, texts, and tweets that is then fed into artificial neural networks that have the ability to model brains and process new information. The end product is that we become a digital version of our physically departed selves.

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A New Set Design for Nursing Homes

Posted by on Jan 22, 2017 in Advisors, Aging Parents, Alzheimer's Disease, Boomers, Caregiver, Siblings

This is a fascinating innovation in the physical design of a nursing home. Forget the clinical model of mini-hospitals and consider bringing the outside inside with a neighborhood look and feel. How comforting to have a front porch with your accommodations, a softening of the harsh decor of skilled nursing spaces. While you can’t unwind the need for a higher level of care, you can choose to have physical aspects of that care honor your need for community and familiar surrounding…

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