Tuesday, June 18, 2013

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Brain Aging

“Cure when possible…Comfort always”

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I just finished a new book by Dr. Peter Whitehouse entitled The Myth of Alzheimer’s Disease: What You Aren’t Being Told About Today’s Most Dreaded Dreaded Diagnosis. While the title has a sensationalist ring to it, the book is a landmark discussion on aging, brain changes, dementia, and our new created obsession with Alzheimer’s disease.

Dr. Whitehouse is a respected neurologist who has been at the forefront of the “Alzheimer’s movement” for almost thirty years. But as the title of the book suggests, he now has deep reservations about where this work has taken us. He insists, with good cause, that we are chasing an expensive illusion that Alzheimer’s disease is a single pathology that can be checkmated with a drug or a vaccine. As important, he feels our profound fear of all aspects of “normal brain aging” has given us two unsavory byproducts:

1. It has once again made aging, the natural changes that are programmed into the human life span, a pathological event. The shame of aging has been intensified by the shame of anything less than perfect brain function. There is no middle ground. We are summoned to a war against poor brain behavior at almost any cost. It is a fear that might convince us to “pre-medicate” the normal drift of forgetting names or reduced multi-tasking as a containment strategy.

2. It has created a twenty-first century “leper syndrome” at a time when 125,000,000 adults are struggling to get through the second half of life. Once the first “mental lesion” a change in brain function is detected, the outcast process begins. A flurry of scans, exams, and lab test mark the official entry into the dementia colony.

In his book, Dr. Whitehouse is not ignoring the reality of dementia. Hardly. He has treated it for decades. But the experience has changed his mind about what treatment means. He argues that the billions we throw at research for a “cure” could be better spent in creating non-clinical support networks that offer adults with accelerated brain aging a humanistic approach to quality of life management. He also argues that a portion of these funds could be used for the most important weapon we have against dementia: lifestyle-based prevention.

I am sure this book will provoke intense debate, and I see that is a good thing. As boomers begin to fill up the ranks of “sixty something,” they need a new way to think about brain aging, one not based on abject fear or another reason to hate being old. Rather they need a compassionate vision of the give and take of aging and the opportunity it creates, amid the comfort of friends, creativity, and purpose, for a meaningful and rich life until the end.

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I was recently asked what to do about aging parents who had little or no savings but refused to discuss any aspect of their “money issue.” It reminded me that our role as adult children is not necessarily about problem solving; it is about compassionate containment. So many of the issues we feel compelled to “fix” have no clear answers. The best we can do is sort out what to accept from what we can actually change. Here was the advice I offered:

The issue of money, like so many other issues in the last phase of life, is about control. The best way to approach it is to reframe money as means of maintaining control. Lack of money takes away control. This link will take you to an article I authored on “communicating touch choices” that offers a practical strategy for how to do this:http://www.aging.org/i4a/pages/index.cfm?pageid=2103&textonly=1

You may also want to consider three strategies that will help you “hedge” your parent’s financial risk:

1. Buy a long term care policy with a two years home care/two years nursing home benefit. This assumes they will cooperative with the process (i.e. signing the applications and answering questions).

2. Start funding a dedicated “side fund” for expenses that a long term care policy will not cover.

3. If you parents own their home, become familiar with how “reverse mortgages work and when they make sense.

Lastly, you need to began discussions with local area agencies on aging to determine what, if any, community resources can assist your parents if they run out of money.

This is a tough end-game, especially if you parents don’t want to talk about. The article will help you frame your conversations. Be patient but persistent in your discussions about control and your desire to help them maintain it.