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Observations and commentary on aging, caregiving, and the complex journey through the second half of life.

End of Life Medical Quicksand

Posted by on Mar 22, 2017 in Advisors, Aging Parents, Caregiver, Siblings

We all know someone with a family member who has fallen into end of life medical quicksand and suffered an excruciating outcome. In his article ” I Know You Love Me–Now Let Me Die,” Dr. Louis Dr. Profeta, an ER physician, reminds us that there was a time when we treated dying family members with a communal dignity that was not focused exclusively on “death prevention” at all costs. Instead, it offered a sacred transition space to honor the expanse and contributions of a person’s life while we kept them safe and close to us until the end…

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Home Unfurnishing Your Parent’s Stuff

Posted by on Feb 15, 2017 in Aging Parents, Caregiver, Siblings

This is an excellent article by Richard Eisenberg that offers eight strategies for systematically paring down the stuff of aging parents that apparently nobody wants. It’s a necessary but ultimately awkward ritual of sorting with an eye towards aggressively casting aside articles that have both deep personal meaning but essentially zero value to the current generation.

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Sibling Rules

Posted by on Feb 11, 2017 in Aging Parents, Caregiver, Siblings

It’s a fact of family life: roles are cut in stone. Stop trying to change a sibling who for the most part resents you for having the audacity to think you need to fix him or her.

Accurately assess what a sibling will and will not do for an aging parent. If their contribution is zero, then zero is is and move on.

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A New Set Design for Nursing Homes

Posted by on Jan 22, 2017 in Advisors, Aging Parents, Alzheimer's Disease, Boomers, Caregiver, Siblings

This is a fascinating innovation in the physical design of a nursing home. Forget the clinical model of mini-hospitals and consider bringing the outside inside with a neighborhood look and feel. How comforting to have a front porch with your accommodations, a softening of the harsh decor of skilled nursing spaces. While you can’t unwind the need for a higher level of care, you can choose to have physical aspects of that care honor your need for community and familiar surrounding…

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More Dancing, Less Wrestling

Posted by on Jan 13, 2017 in Advisors, Aging Parents, Caregiver, Siblings

Aging Parents Dance Cards is a 20-card set created for adult children of aging parents. Each 4″X 6″ card contains bite size insights and strategies for the unique challenges of caregiving for an older parent. They are designed to rebalance thinking and responses to the frustration, confusion and guilt that so quickly arises in communication between generations.

Aging Parents Dance Cards are an ideal marketing handout for professionals working with adult children of aging parents. They signal to potential or existing clients that you get it about the challenges of aging parents and, as important, you are providing them with a unique resource that has the potential to immediately improve communication between generations.

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Aging Parents Dance Cards 9-16

Posted by on Dec 4, 2016 in Aging Parents, Caregiver, Siblings

Below are the titles and graphics for Aging Parents Dance Cards 9-16. Whether heading to their home, the hospital or the telephone, Aging Parents Dance Cards offer adult children access to good caregiving ideas when they’re needed most. Sets of all twenty cards will be available in January 2017 at

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