Comments on: Sibling Infighting: How Do You Recover? http://www.davidsolie.com/blog/sibling-infighting-how-do-you-recover/ Observations and commentary on aging, caregiving, and the complex journey through the second half of life. Wed, 28 Dec 2011 09:51:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: deborah Oconnor http://www.davidsolie.com/blog/sibling-infighting-how-do-you-recover/comment-page-1/#comment-903 deborah Oconnor Wed, 28 Oct 2009 00:28:25 +0000 http://www.dsolie.com/blog/?p=161#comment-903 I think a lot of parents can do things on there own instead of depending of their children. They never took the RIDE because so many family members would change their plans. I love to help my parents out but I would much rather try soooooo\ much to do things on my own for my husband. I feel it is my childrens time right now. I think that the older generation depends so much on their children. Dont get me wrong, but I do think that generation lived for their children so I must not understand. I have been married for 35 years and depended on no one. maybe I am more selfish than I admit. I just hope as I grow older with my husband I would try to do it on our own. I hope I would take the ride to go placed. I would walk to the hairdresser up the steet. I would take a small time of the day to organize the house. Am I living in a fantasy world. let me know I think a lot of parents can do things on there
own instead of depending of their children. They
never took the RIDE because so many family members
would change their plans. I love to help my
parents out but I would much rather try soooooo\
much to do things on my own for my husband. I feel
it is my childrens time right now. I think that
the older generation depends so much on their
children. Dont get me wrong, but I do think that
generation lived for their children so I must not
understand. I have been married for 35 years and
depended on no one. maybe I am more selfish than
I admit. I just hope as I grow older with my husband
I would try to do it on our own. I hope I would
take the ride to go placed. I would walk to the
hairdresser up the steet. I would take a small time of the day to organize the house. Am I living
in a fantasy world. let me know

]]> By: Patricia http://www.davidsolie.com/blog/sibling-infighting-how-do-you-recover/comment-page-1/#comment-900 Patricia Wed, 21 Oct 2009 17:41:17 +0000 http://www.dsolie.com/blog/?p=161#comment-900 I am glad to have found this topic, because I am experiencing the same situation with my parents, who live with me. My siblings are disrespectful and not helpful at all. I am lucky that they are both healthy right now, but my siblings (both older) stir up a lot of trouble, largely due to unresolved conflicts and rivalry between us. They have always resented me and now, they tell my parents negative things about me, which my parents believe (my parents once said negative things about them to me, but I would change the subject; my siblings don't have the same willingness, respect or ability to do the same). We aren't speaking and I doubt we will. Reading this gives me hope that I can steer the situation in a better direction. I am glad to have found this topic, because I am experiencing the same situation with my parents, who live with me. My siblings are disrespectful and not helpful at all.

I am lucky that they are both healthy right now, but my siblings (both older) stir up a lot of trouble, largely due to unresolved conflicts and rivalry between us. They have always resented me and now, they tell my parents negative things about me, which my parents believe (my parents once said negative things about them to me, but I would change the subject; my siblings don’t have the same willingness, respect or ability to do the same). We aren’t speaking and I doubt we will. Reading this gives me hope that I can steer the situation in a better direction.

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