Declining Health & Frailty




Resist Punitive Perfection

Pointing out errors of memory or cognition to our aging parents proves nothing…Period…We all will suffer the same fate when we are firmly in their shoes and we will equally resent being called out for something we can’t control…Instead of…

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This is what love looks like…

This is what love looks like across war, sickness, separation and finally death…none of those afflictions of life on earth were a match for the fierce and profound love these two veterans carried in their hearts and in their actions…talk…

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TUG & CFS: Assessing Frailty Tools

TUG and CFA are two important tools that help clinicians and laypersons alike assess frailty in older adults.  Frailty status impacts the type and degree of healthcare, support services and living accommodations,   Below are links to each assessment tool and …

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Functional Ability is Destiny at the End

This important article by Dr. Dhruv Khullar in the New York Times offers new insights from data mining about a critical tipping point for older adults who drift beyond having chronic illnesses to also developing functional ability deficits.  This lethal…

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How To Talk To Aging Parents About Where To Live

I was recently interviewed for an article entitled “Conversation vs. Confrontation: Guidelines for Effective Communication with Your Aging Parents.” In it I discuss how often the insistence by older adults to “stay put” in their home despite deteriorating circumstances prevents…

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Why Would An Aging Parent Say That?

A reoccurring theme in caregiver support groups is disparaging and derogatory comments made by aging parents to their adult children who are struggling to do the right thing. Voicing anger and bitterness about how their life has turned out, these…

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