Preserving Control



Uninformed About The Agenda

You can You can assume that older adults have essentially the same needs and priorities as the rest of the adult population but in doing so, you will miss a never to be repeated opportunity to facilitate their final growth…

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Becoming Better Partners With Our Aging Parents

This is a 15-minute, “quick start” audio blog about my theory on the psychological developmental tasks of older adults and how to use it to improve our partnership with them. Below are three key tracks I’ve uploaded from my audio…

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Moving Control Options Beyond A Zero Sum Context

In their struggle to preserve control, aging parents may see their choices as primarily all or nothing decisions, a zero sum battle of wills with only winners and losers.  Unfortunately, this narrow perspective misses what appears to be  a more…

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Mind The Gap

Aging parents have a different psychological agenda from their adult children. The agenda of the last phase of life has a laser like focus on preserving control and creating a legacy. It’s all about Lasting and Leaving. Adult children need…

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We All Knew They Would Get Older

I’ve attached the first five tracks of my audio CD to this blog.  I recorded this 10-track CD at the request of an attendee at one of my presentations.  She told me that in her hectic world of endless transactions…

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How to Communicate with Aging Parents about Money

Older adults have a deep resistance to having conversations with their adult children about money. Why? It arises from three psychological factors that coalesce in last phase of life to create resistive barriers to open discussions about financial issues. These…

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Unlocking the Communication Code of Seniors

The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place—-George Bernard Shaw Despite the unprecedented opportunity afforded advisors by an aging population, many find themselves unprepared to successfully communicate with seniors. Instead, they wind up frustrated…

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