In truth, families are officially “complex systems” where seemingly minor changes can produce major consequences ar anytime and without warning. What seemed like a good idea turns out to trigger an exhaustive meltdown. Now what?
Accepting this reality as an immutable law of the world of aging parents helps prevents misguided efforts to prevent them from happening. The system is wired to erupt on itself with the slightest tampering. Botton Line: They are unavoidable.
Better to focus on acceptance and patience to allow events run their course. This act of caregiver aikido is the key to reducing the toll these vignettes have on everyone.