For whatever comes in life…
To have courage for whatever comes in life –
everything lies in that…Saint Teresa of Alviar
Courage by David Solie…
Free-Access 30-Minute Video: Closing the Communication Gap with Our Aging Parents
I created this video for adult children and their aging parents. It is information that both generations need to know about the psychology of the last phase of life. It restores dignity and purpose in the lives of older adults,…
Evidence-Based Inquiry Into Driving Skills
At some point, driving gets away from our aging parents. It’s an insidious process that lulls older adults into a false sense of security that their driving skills are still adequate. Adult children see a different picture of “unsafe driving”…
The Obvious Audience No One Is Educating
I want to share with you a story about “How To Say It To Seniors” found a new audience unbeknownst to me. A few years ago, a colleague of mine shared how he used my book with older adults who…
Home Rules: We’re Not Going Anywhere
Older adults see where they live as the Alamo and will make their last stand defending it. We advance with logic, manipulations, and threats, and they use any means at their disposal to repel us. Here’s why.
1. The place…
Secrets: A Powerful Form Of Control
One Good Day
In the end, caregivers accept the limits of what they can control while making the best of what remains—a shift in focus to one good day at a time.
Honoring the here and now offers a nurturing space for aging…
Last Stories: Adult Children as Legacy Coaches
“People attend, remember, and are transformed by stories…
Mary Pipher from Writing to Change the World
Stories have a profound impact on our lives. On one level, our identity is the summation of our stories. When our aging parents enter…
Reset Expectations
The challenges of caring for an aging parent are exhaustive and quickly exceed the capacity of one person.
Caregivers need to adopt realistic and sustainable expectations about their capacity to avoid sacrificing their health for unattainable goals.
Acknowledging limits on…
And then an aging parent moves in…
When an aging parent moves in, no one can predict how it will work out. What looks good in the beginning can come undone in sudden and distressing ways.
Adult children need to frame moving in as “one step” in…