Sibling Rules
It’s a fact of family life: roles are cut in stone. Stop trying to change a sibling who for the most part resents your audacity to assume you have the right to “fix’ him or her.
Accurately assess what a…
Complimentary PDF Copy of The Most Important Question Adult Children Should Be Asking Themselves About Caregiving
Receive a complimentary PDF copy of this blog post to share with clients, colleagues and family members who are involved with caregiving responsibilities for aging parents. I have that this blog deeply resonates with what caregivers are experiencing and offers…
When “Little Changes” Cause Everything To Fall Apart
There are no “little” changes in the world of aging parents. Any action, throwing out old magazines, scheduling an appointment without telling them, or not including a sibling in what seems a minor decision can trigger a temporary system shut…
Families Are Wired To Erupt
In truth, families are officially “complex systems” where seemingly minor changes can produce major consequences ar anytime and without warning. What seemed like a good idea turns out to trigger an exhaustive meltdown. Now what?
Accepting this reality as an…
The impact of unforgiveness on older adults
Families are a battle ground where the wounds of conflict can be carried for a life time. While at some point forgiveness seems in order, its withholding is an all too common theme in the exhausting contest to prove who’s…
Caregiver Decision Fatigue
Caring for aging parents brings with it a new kind of exhaustion called decision fatigue. While its cause has a number of contributing factors, two in particular stand out as primary sources:
• Sustained engagement with dilemmas
• Decision volatility…
When Everything Falls Apart
Remember that there is nothing stable in human affairs; therefore avoid undue elation in prosperity, or undue depression in adversity…….Socrates
The world of aging parents is a complex system. This is not simply a scientific observation; it is a critical…