Long term care planning is another “hot spot” for aging parents. Attempts by family members to pressure, warn, or scare an older adults into planning decisions usually fail. That’s why we created the When The Bottom Falls Out Mind Map.
The When The Bottom Falls Out Mind Map offers families a one-page diagram that portrays the type of decisionthat would have to be made if things fall apart and helps families deal with long term care planning issues in four ways:
- It reduces the burden and risks of not knowing the big picture. The When The Bottom Falls Out Mind Map provides families with a global perspective on the depth and complexity of long term care planning issues. Many times this information is fuzzy, incomplete or only known by a few.
- It reduces the burden of caregiving handoffs. The When The Bottom Falls Out Mind Map offers a quick reference guide for other family members who want to help with sorting out or clarifying choices and preferences.
- It reduces the burden of integrating long term care planning information. The When The Bottom Falls Out Mind Map serves as an information hub for sending and planning updates to the caregiving team.
- It reduces the burden of orchestrating a crisis. The When The Bottom Falls Out Mind Map becomes an important resource for coordinating a response to a significant change in heath or living status.
How to use the When The Bottom Falls Out Mind Map
In situations where aging parents are unwilling to discuss long term care planning issues, give them a copy of the map with the following statement. “These are the things we are going to have to decide with or without you. We will do our best when things fall apart.” No scolding. No lecturing.
In situation where parents are willing to discuss long term care planning, give them a copy of the map with the following statement. “These are your choices. Our goal is to honor them. Spend some time looking at the map and make notes about your instructions, preferences and wishes.” Let them set the pace of the follow up conversation.