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About David Solie

About David Solie

Last Updated on Thursday, 10 December 2009 08:12 Written by David Solie Thursday, 29 November 2007 01:34

David Solie

David Solie

David Solie is an author, educator, speaker, and thought leader in the area of geriatric and intergenerational communication. His book How To Say It To Seniors: Closing the Communication Gap with Our Elders is a landmark text that has been read and reread by legions of baby boomers searching for a better approach to working with their parents and other older adults. It offers unique insights and proven, practical communication strategies that help professionals and laypersons alike interact more compassionately and effectively with older adults.

David Solie is a gifted speaker whose keynote and breakout presentations on communication between generations have won critical acclaim from audiences throughout the United States and Canada. His compelling stories, unique insights, humor, compassion, and inspirational delivery have made him a favorite of financial advisors, attorneys, accountants, senior service professionals, planned giving specialists, caregivers, and general audiences.

David Solie is a graduate of the University of Washington, University of Manitoba, the University of Colorado Medical School, and practiced a number years in family medicine as a licensed physician assistant.

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No Money: No Comment

I was recently asked what to do about aging parents who had little or no savings but refused to discuss any aspect of their “money issue.” It reminded me that our role as adult children is not necessarily about problem solving; it is about compassionate containment. So many of the issues we feel compelled to “fix” have no clear answers. The best we can do is sort out what to accept from what we can actually change. Here was the advice I offered:

The issue of money, like so many other issues in the last phase of life, is about control. The best way to approach it is to reframe money as means of maintaining control. Lack of money takes away control. This link will take you to an article I authored on “communicating touch choices” that offers a practical strategy for how to do this:http://www.aging.org/i4a/pages/index.cfm?pageid=2103&textonly=1

You may also want to consider three strategies that will help you “hedge” your parent’s financial risk:

1. Buy a long term care policy with a two years home care/two years nursing home benefit. This assumes they will cooperative with the process (i.e. signing the applications and answering questions).

2. Start funding a dedicated “side fund” for expenses that a long term care policy will not cover.

3. If you parents own their home, become familiar with how “reverse mortgages work and when they make sense.

Lastly, you need to began discussions with local area agencies on aging to determine what, if any, community resources can assist your parents if they run out of money.

This is a tough end-game, especially if you parents don’t want to talk about. The article will help you frame your conversations. Be patient but persistent in your discussions about control and your desire to help them maintain it.

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