Second-Half of Life Blog


Home Rules: We’re Not Going Anywhere

Older adults see where they live as the Alamo and will make their last stand defending it. We advance with logic, manipulations, and threats, and they use any means at their disposal to repel us. Here’s why. 1. The place…

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Reason To Hope

This is my second deck of 10 front-folded note cards with envelopes.  The deck is entitled Reason To Hope.  These new paintings honor nature’s transformative beauty despite the dire predictions of a dark future.  Granted, the long odds against turning…

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One Good Day

In the end, caregivers accept the limits of what they can control while making the best of what remains—a shift in focus to one good day at a time. Honoring the here and now offers a nurturing space for aging…

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Corona Warrior Insignia

I created the Corona Warrior insignia to honor the healthcare workers on the frontlines of the corona virus pandemic, fearless souls who represent the edict Jesus spoke of in the New Testament when he said , “There is no greater…

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Personal Touch Softens Social Distancing

We have stepped through the sociological looking glass to flatten out the pandemic curve only to discover yet another degree of digital isolation with social distancing and self-quarantine. I’m not saying texting, emails, and FaceTime doesn’t have a role in…

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Divine Construct

Between the mundane and the horrific lies a divine construct trying to signal us reassurance and hope that there is a bigger game at play here, one that your heart will recognize and draw courage from as we make our…

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Informed Control: The Art of Alignment

“I can’t believe I have to take a driving evaluation.” Nancy could hear how upset her father was at the idea of being retested to keep his driver’s license, “I have been a licensed driver for over 50 years, and…

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The Real Work Of Families…

(As a writer, I always feel I’m best person to title my own articles, blogs and booklets. Of course, that’s just my willfulness not paying attention to better voices who have different take on what I have written.  And so…

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Sibling Rules

It’s a fact of family life: roles are cut in stone.  Stop trying to change a sibling who for the most part resents your audacity to assume you have the right to “fix’ him or her. Accurately assess what a…

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Life Metaphor

This new painting, entitled Life Metaphor, depicts the polyphasic downpour of light and darkness on all our lives, a carpet bombing of lessons aimed at our spiritual growth whether we’re paying attention or not……

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Magical Thinking

Feeling overwhelmed, aging parents may turn to magical thinking to solve problems.  Like denial, it allows them a way to defer the complexity and burden of a problem. Opting to continue unsafe driving, ignoring financial limitations or rejecting help with…

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Right Sizing My Encore Career

I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions…….Stephen Covey After 30 years of public speaking, I am leaving the main stage and focusing my encore career on working with small study groups.  I…

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Last Stories: Adult Children as Legacy Coaches

“People attend, remember, and are transformed by stories… Mary Pipher from Writing to Change the World Stories have a profound impact on our lives. On one level, our identity is the summation of our stories.  When our aging parents enter…

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