The World Is Too Much With Us…
The world is too much with us; late and soon,
Getting and spending, we lay was te our powers;
Little we see in Nature that is ours;
We have given our hearts away, a sordid boon!
These famous lines…
Reset Expectations
The challenges of caring for an aging parent are exhaustive and quickly exceed the capacity of one person.
Caregivers need to adopt realistic and sustainable expectations about their capacity to avoid sacrificing their health for unattainable goals.
Acknowledging limits on…
Solo Spousal Care
Solo caregiving takes a toll on both parties. What starts out as an act of compassion and loyalty can deteriorate into a role that exceeds the best efforts of one person.
Reframing the situation from a new vantage point helps…
Sample from David Solie’s New Video: Introduction and Chapter One
This a sample from my new video: the introduction followed by a chapter entitled “The Phone Call.” This will give you a feel for the content, style and pacing. of the material. As all of us who have been caregivers…
David Solie’s Complimentary Booklets for Caregivers
So far, I have created five (5) booklets for caregivers and their families. I have two more in the works. All five are complimentary, available in a PDF format and can be ordered using the form below.
Here is a…
New PDF Booklet: Caregiver Decision Fatigue
This “must read” article for caregivers outlines the synergistic complexity and uncertainty that dilemmas and family systems interject into all aspects of a caring for aging parents. As important, the article offers practical strategies caregivers can readily adopt to better…
When “Little Changes” Cause Everything To Fall Apart
There are no “little” changes in the world of aging parents. Any action, throwing out old magazines, scheduling an appointment without telling them, or not including a sibling in what seems a minor decision can trigger a temporary system shut…
All Caregivers Need A “Nutritious Friend”
Definition: Nutritious Friend
1. They are always happy to see you.
2. They always want to know what’s happening in your life.
3. They have no plans to “change” of “fix” you, ever.
If you have a nutritious friend in…
The Shifting Sands of Solo Caregiving…
Solo caregiving takes a toll on both parties. What starts out as an act of compassion and loyalty can deteriorate into a role that exceeds the best efforts of one person.
Reframing the situation from a new vantage point helps…
When all else fails, take them to the ER…
This article, entitled “Stressed Out Caregivers Are Using ER Visits for Respite Study Finds,” confirms that caregivers do what they have to do to survive the stress of caring for aging parents. It is also a sad reminder of the…