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Predicting The Boomer Future…

September 5, 2012

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The best way to predict the future is to invent it. Alan Kay It’s 2026. The future is here, 14 year later. We are taking a sneak peak into the lives of two baby boomer couples that are now well…

The Right Words…

August 21, 2012

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We are always searching for the right words when a death occurs. We mean well but our attempts to comfort may painfully produce the opposite result. This blog post by Carole Brody is a “refresher course” in how our words…

So what’s in the world come over you…

June 22, 2012

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The title of this blog is taken from John Prine’s song “Speed of the Sound of Loneliness,” which seems apropos for an article on the profound impact of loneliness on the health of aging parents. Here’s the first punch line:…

The Caregiver Dance: Compassion and Equanimity

April 1, 2012

Last year I went to a conference on accepting the limits of being a caregiver. It was attended by mostly hospital-based healthcare professionals who have to deal with suffering and loss on a daily basis. The focus of the program…

Reframing the Retirement Conversation

March 25, 2012

What if they held a retirement planning meeting for financial advisors themselves and no one showed up? Sound odd? It was, but that’s what happened. We set up a meeting for a group of financial advisors to discuss their own…

Bad Parent Connection: Now What?

December 19, 2011

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It’s one thing to have a decent connection to our aging parents. We may not be close, but we still feel compelled by love and loyalty to come along side them in the in last years of their lives. But…

Boomers Arriving at 65: The Stability Survey™

October 4, 2011

We neither get better or worse as we get older, but more like ourselves…Robert Anthony The boomers are landing on the shore of old age at a rate of 12,000 a day. While turning 65 is officially classified as “young-old,”…

Seeking Forgiveness: Linda Kriger

July 4, 2011

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This deeply moving article by Linda Kriger was published in 2008: http://www.forward.com/articles/14255/ I have read and reread this tale of estrangement, bitterness, regret, and the search for “repair” because I heard endless versions of it from friends, colleagues, clients, and…

Navigating Caregiver Dilemmas

May 25, 2011

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As the drama of aging parents unfolds, it reveals itself as layers of interconnected dilemmas that resist heroic attempts to keep everything together. Like an unruly Rubik’s Cube, alignment in one caregiver area seems to trigger chaos in another. Just…

Boomer Community: Aging with the Right People

January 17, 2011

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Without friends no one would choose to live, though he had all other goods. Aristotle Stress is an isolator. As its intensity increases, it promotes distrust of others and that distrust leads to greater isolation from the essential social networks…