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Season’s Song

December 24, 2019

(First Light) Season’s Song By David Solie Here or gone, the gravity Of holiday memories Brings us face to face With love’s blunt Truth: our “moment” With our parents Has passed, gone Forever along with Our childhood and It’s frantic…

Second Thoughts After They’re Gone

January 12, 2018

When a parent passes away, we take on a new kind of work. I am not referring to the necessary “estate chores” of filing papers or clearing out the house. I am referring to the psychological process of sorting out…

Beyond Grief: Rebalancing What We Can’t Control

August 19, 2017

I get a steady flow of inquires about how to deal with the anticipation or actual loss of an aging parent. One reader framed it this way. “It is devastating to think about and I don’t want to create undo…

Beyond Loss: Grief vs Major Depression

May 17, 2014

With aging comes the loss of those who mean the most to us. There is no way to prepare for it. We are ambushed and swept away into grief and suffering. After some period of time, we slowly, unevenly crawl…

The Right Words…

August 21, 2012

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We are always searching for the right words when a death occurs. We mean well but our attempts to comfort may painfully produce the opposite result. This blog post by Carole Brody is a “refresher course” in how our words…