Preserving Control Archives - Aging, caregiving and the journey through the second half of life

Becoming Better Partners With Our Aging Parents

May 21, 2021

Better Together Love is the answer, at least for most of the questions in my heart Like why are we here? And where do we go? And how come it’s so hard? It’s not always easy and Sometimes life can…

The Drama of Control Never Gets Easier and Never Goes Away

August 2, 2020

Control is the current we ride to the end. Sometimes It’s buried in a dilemma between two unsavory choices and no escape hatch. Sometimes heroic efforts to facilitate control provoke dilemmas we never saw coming. My point is that control…

Home Rules: We’re Not Going Anywhere

May 21, 2020

Older adults see where they live as the Alamo and will make their last stand defending it. We advance with logic, manipulations, and threats, and they use any means at their disposal to repel us. Here’s why. 1. The place…

Secrets: A Powerful Form Of Control

April 30, 2020

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Informed Control: The Art of Alignment

March 3, 2020

“I can’t believe I have to take a driving evaluation.” Nancy could hear how upset her father was at the idea of being retested to keep his driver’s license, “I have been a licensed driver for over 50 years, and…

Reframe the Connection Between Choices and Preserving Control

January 27, 2020

Practice the art of offering choices for both big and small items. What seems to be a trivial choice to adult children may be significant to aging parents whose choices are dwindling. Reframe the…

Order David Solie’s New Video Online: Free Shipping

November 7, 2019

Here’s the link to the information, trailer, sample clip and order page for my new video Closing the Communication Gap with Our Aging Parents. Give a copy to family members to help everyone get on the same page about what’s…

Is the doctor a “good fit” for an aging parent?

January 17, 2019

Navigating the healthcare system involves dealing with a wide range of physicians and support personnel. Not all physician partnerships are successful. Issues like difficulty reaching the doctor, hurried office visits, confusing medical jargon, limited explanations, and inefficient billing support can…

PDF Copy Of “Seventy-Something”

January 16, 2019

No one can build you that bridge on which you, and only you, must cross the river of life.. Nietzche Use this form to order a PDF copy of Seventy-Something: Boomer Becoming Their Parents…

Seventy-Something: Boomers Becoming Their Parents

January 13, 2019

I recently updated this article for boomers to remind them of two things: This is the unspoken agenda of your aging parents. They need for you to understand its implications and find ways to partner with them to protect their…