Sibling Rules
It’s a fact of family life: roles are cut in stone. Stop trying to change a sibling who for the most part resents your audacity to assume you have the right to “fix’ him or her.
Accurately assess what a…
It was the kind of moon…
Reframe the Connection Between Choices and Preserving Control
Practice the art of offering choices for both big and small items. What seems to be a trivial choice to adult children may be significant to aging parents whose choices are dwindling.
Reframe the…
Solo Spousal Care
Solo caregiving takes a toll on both parties. What starts out as an act of compassion and loyalty can deteriorate into a role that exceeds the best efforts of one person.
Reframing the situation from a new vantage point helps…
Life Metaphor
This new painting, entitled Life Metaphor, depicts the polyphasic downpour of light and darkness on all our lives, a carpet bombing of lessons aimed at our spiritual growth whether we’re paying attention or not……
For Adult Children Caregivers of Aging Parents, Childhood Matters
The residue of childhood carries with it complex feelings about aging parents that limit objectivity, exaggerates responsibilities and increases emotional vulnerability.
This distorted landscape makes it impossible for adult children to receive the approval the desperately seek from their aging…
Magical Thinking
Feeling overwhelmed, aging parents may turn to magical thinking to solve problems. Like denial, it allows them a way to defer the complexity and burden of a problem.
Opting to continue unsafe driving, ignoring financial limitations or rejecting help with…
Season’s Song
(First Light)
Season’s Song
By David Solie
Here or gone, the gravity
Of holiday memories
Brings us face to face
With love’s blunt
Truth: our “moment”
With our parents
Has passed, gone
Forever along with
Our childhood and
It’s frantic…
Right Sizing My Encore Career
I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions…….Stephen Covey
After 30 years of public speaking, I am leaving the main stage and focusing my encore career on working with small study groups. I…
Order David Solie’s New Video Online: Free Shipping
Here’s the link to the information, trailer, sample clip and order page for my new video Closing the Communication Gap with Our Aging Parents.
Give a copy to family members to help everyone get on the same page about what’s…