Caregiver Support Archives - Page 7 of 20 - Aging, caregiving and the journey through the second half of life

What’s Really Going On Here?

January 6, 2018

Adult children and aging parents view the same situation from very different perspectives. And both are absolutely sure their interpretation of its meaning as well as their ideas about how to deal with it are correct. Not surprising, each party…

Strategic Collaboration Calls with David Solie™

December 24, 2017

If you are getting the same results using the same strategies over and over again with an aging parent, it may be time for a collaboration call to gain both a new perspective on your situation and new communication…

Moving In…

December 17, 2017

When an aging parent moves in, no one can predict how it will work out. What looks good in the beginning can come undone in sudden and distressing ways. Adult children need to frame moving in as “one step” in…

Reset Expectations

December 15, 2017

The challenge of caring for an aging parent are exhaustive and quickly exceed the capacity of any one person. Caregivers need to adopt realistic and sustainable expectations about their capacityy to avoid sacrificing their health for unattainable goals. Acknowledging limits…

Families Are Wired To Erupt

December 7, 2017

In truth, families are officially “complex systems” where seemingly minor changes can produce major consequences ar anytime and without warning. What seemed like a good idea turns out to trigger an exhaustive meltdown. Now what? Accepting this reality as an…

Growing Up With Toxic Parents

November 5, 2017

This quote by Susan Forward from her book Toxic Parents captures the essence of the emotional wound toxic parenting inflicts on children. Recovery as an adult takes layers of patience and compassion as well as the context of sustained “healthy…

Perfect Gift for Caregivers of Aging Parents

November 3, 2017

Below is the complete set, all 20 cards of the Aging Parents Dance Cards deck. Together, they offer bite-sized portions of David Solie’s philosophy, insights, reframing strategies and work arounds that all help to reduce the complexity and uncertainty of…

Off Label with Nursing Home Patients

October 21, 2017

This disturbing investigation by CNN of the off label use of a medication on nursing home patients reinforces the responsibility of caregivers to know the names, dosages and the “exact medical reason” for each medication the older family member is…

Caregiver Resilience Mantra

September 28, 2017

Resilience utilizes realistic expectations and healthy boundaries to sustain the long term responsibilities of caregiving……

How To Reduce Power Struggles With Aging Parents

September 13, 2017

How To Reduce Power Struggles With Aging Parents is a video slideshow I created to outline some of the underlying issues that complicate communication between adult children and their aging parents. In addition to providing new insights about their causes,…