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And then an aging parent moves in…

February 17, 2020

When an aging parent moves in, no one can predict how it will work out. What looks good in the beginning can come undone in sudden and distressing ways. Adult children need to frame moving in as “one step” in…

Prior Authorization May Not Mean What You Think It Means

February 11, 2020

Perfect. Add it to the list of unending financial shocks that haunt our healthcare system. The predictable medical problems of aging are enough of a burden without the profound weight of the escalating cost of healthcare. These punitive and painful…

The Real Work Of Families…

February 10, 2020

(As a writer, I always feel I’m best person to title my own articles, blogs and booklets. Of course, that’s just my willfulness not paying attention to better voices who have different take on what I have written. And so…

Social Fabric: The Key to Senior’s Quality of Life….

February 8, 2020

Without friends no one would choose to live, though he had all other goods.—Aristotle After completing one of these Social Fabric Mind Maps you can suggest and provide more recreational activities, social outreach, and other ways to provide social support…

Sibling Rules

February 3, 2020

It’s a fact of family life: roles are cut in stone. Stop trying to change a sibling who for the most part resents your audacity to assume you have the right to “fix’ him or her. Accurately assess what a…

Magical Thinking

January 7, 2020

Feeling overwhelmed, aging parents may turn to magical thinking to solve problems. Like denial, it allows them a way to defer the complexity and burden of a problem. Opting to continue unsafe driving, ignoring financial limitations or rejecting help with…

Sample from David Solie’s New Video: Introduction and Chapter One

October 26, 2019

This a sample from my new video: the introduction followed by a chapter entitled “The Phone Call.” This will give you a feel for the content, style and pacing. of the material. As all of us who have been caregivers…

The Drama of Aging Parents: Trailer for David Solie’s New Video

October 25, 2019

I created this new fast paced video to provide a succinct and compelling overview of my work on the unique psychological agenda of aging parents. It is a “must see” for all adult children who are engaged or expect to…

The Most Important Question Adult Children Should Ask Themselves About Caregiving-2

August 13, 2019

(This blog was originally posted in 2017) The drama of our aging parents takes place in an emotional landscape, an environment that can overwhelm us without warning or apparent logic. We seem to be bobbing corks on an angry ocean…

Middle Age + Caregiving: Three Mind Maps

March 21, 2019

Middle age is daunting for everyone, especially caregivers. There are so many moving and complicated parts that can quickly overwhelm the best intentions or the most efficient management skills. One of the biggest mistakes I see middle age caregivers make…