One Good Day
In the end, caregivers accept the limits of what they can control while making the best of what remains—a shift in focus to one good day at a time.
Honoring the here and now offers a nurturing space for aging…
Last Stories: Adult Children as Legacy Coaches
“People attend, remember, and are transformed by stories…
Mary Pipher from Writing to Change the World
Stories have a profound impact on our lives. On one level, our identity is the summation of our stories. When our aging parents enter…
Informed Control: The Art of Alignment
“I can’t believe I have to take a driving evaluation.” Nancy could hear how upset her father was at the idea of being retested to keep his driver’s license, “I have been a licensed driver for over 50 years, and…
Reset Expectations
The challenges of caring for an aging parent are exhaustive and quickly exceed the capacity of one person.
Caregivers need to adopt realistic and sustainable expectations about their capacity to avoid sacrificing their health for unattainable goals.
Acknowledging limits on…
And then an aging parent moves in…
When an aging parent moves in, no one can predict how it will work out. What looks good in the beginning can come undone in sudden and distressing ways.
Adult children need to frame moving in as “one step” in…
The Real Work Of Families…
(As a writer, I always feel I’m best person to title my own articles, blogs and booklets. Of course, that’s just my willfulness not paying attention to better voices who have different take on what I have written. And so…
Family Rules are not a level playing field for Caregivers
Families are complex systems where minor changes can produce major consequences at any time and with out warning.
Accepting this reality as an immutable law of the world of aging parents helps prevents exhaustive efforts to prevent them from happening. …
Social Fabric: The Key to Senior’s Quality of Life….
Without friends no one would choose to live, though he had all other goods.—Aristotle
After completing one of these Social Fabric Mind Maps you can suggest and provide more recreational activities, social outreach, and other ways to provide social support…
Sibling Rules
It’s a fact of family life: roles are cut in stone. Stop trying to change a sibling who for the most part resents your audacity to assume you have the right to “fix’ him or her.
Accurately assess what a…