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More Dancing, Less Wrestling

Posted by on Jan 13, 2017 in Advisors, Aging Parents, Caregiver, Siblings | Comments Off on More Dancing, Less Wrestling

More Dancing, Less Wrestling

Aging Parents Dance Cards is a 20-card set created for adult children of aging parents. Each 4″X 6″ card contains bite size insights and strategies for the unique challenges of caregiving for an older parent. They are designed to rebalance thinking and responses to the frustration, confusion and guilt that so quickly arises in communication between generations.

Aging Parents Dance Cards are an ideal marketing handout for professionals working with adult children of aging parents. They signal to potential or existing clients that you get it about the challenges of aging parents and, as important, you are providing them with a unique resource that has the potential to immediately improve communication between generations.

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Online College Course: Communication Skills with Seniors

Posted by on Dec 26, 2016 in Advisors, Aging Parents, Caregiver | Comments Off on Online College Course: Communication Skills with Seniors

Online College Course: Communication Skills with Seniors

I have joined the faculty of Saint Joseph’s College of Maine to offer a new online course entitled Communication Skills with Seniors (Sl 320). Here is the course overview:

The purpose of this course is to assist you in developing compassionate and effective communication skills with persons 65 years and older. To do this, it asks you to look beyond society’s stereotypic view of seniors as simply diminished versions of their former selves and see them as more complex and capable than was previous thought.

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Geriatric Depression Scale

Posted by on Dec 15, 2016 in Aging Parents, Caregiver | Comments Off on Geriatric Depression Scale

Geriatric Depression Scale

Despite how older adults are depicted in the popular media, depression is not a natural part of aging. As important, with proper recognition and treatment depression can be reversible. That’s the good news. The bad news is that left left untreated, it becomes an accelerant for poor outcomes.

Untreated depression in older adults triggers a whole array of health problems. These include the onset of cognitive dysfunction, social isolation, delayed recovery from illness and surgery, and an increased risk of suicide. It is a profound risk factor for poor quality of life.

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The Ceremony of the Shoes

Posted by on Dec 13, 2016 in Aging Parents, Caregiver, Poetry | Comments Off on The Ceremony of the Shoes

The Ceremony of the Shoes

Embedded in the living towards the end lies a narrative about love under fatal duress. It is a space that refines courage and fosters an unexpected elegance. Frannie Lindsay’s poem below is about how this elegance, born of love and devotion, plays itself out in the daily ceremony of the shoes…

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Aging Parents Dance Cards 17-20

Posted by on Dec 5, 2016 in Aging Parents, Caregiver | Comments Off on Aging Parents Dance Cards 17-20

Aging Parents Dance Cards 17-20

Whether heading to their home, the hospital or the telephone, Aging Parents Dance Cards offer adult children access to good caregiving ideas when they’re needed most.

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Aging Parents Dance Cards 9-16

Posted by on Dec 4, 2016 in Aging Parents, Caregiver, Siblings | Comments Off on Aging Parents Dance Cards 9-16

Aging Parents Dance Cards 9-16

Below are the titles and graphics for Aging Parents Dance Cards 9-16. Whether heading to their home, the hospital or the telephone, Aging Parents Dance Cards offer adult children access to good caregiving ideas when they’re needed most. Sets of all twenty cards will be available in January 2017 at www.davidsolie.com.

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Aging Parents Dance Cards 1-8

Posted by on Dec 3, 2016 in Aging Parents, Caregiver, Siblings | Comments Off on Aging Parents Dance Cards 1-8

Aging Parents Dance Cards 1-8

Below are the titles and graphics for Aging Parents Dance Cards 1-8. They are designed to rebalance thinking and responses to the frustrations, confusion and guilt that so quickly arises in communication between generations.

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Aging Parents Dance Cards

Posted by on Dec 2, 2016 in Advisors, Aging Parents, Caregiver | Comments Off on Aging Parents Dance Cards

Aging Parents Dance Cards

Introducing “Aging Parents Dance Cards,” which were created for adult children of aging parents. The photos below are from the front and back side of one of the cards in the twenty-card set entitled “Reset Expectations.”

Each card offers a bite size coaching moment designed to help sustain caregivers caught up in a world of competing obligations, increasing complexity and inconvenient timing.

Their goal is to offer concise, timely insights for decoding, reframing and navigating tasks or problems common to caregiving. As such, they help reduce conflict with aging parents by providing clear and effective strategies that promote more dancing and less wrestling.

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The Dementia Game Is About You

Posted by on Nov 18, 2016 in Aging Parents, Alzheimer's Disease, Caregiver | Comments Off on The Dementia Game Is About You

The Dementia Game Is About You

This intriguing game based on navigation and memory skills is part of a massive study on dementia. The study’s goal is to create a baseline for the “normal” decline of navigation and memory skills with aging to serve as a screening reference to identify abnormal declines as a marker of dementia.

So far, 2.4 million users have downloaded and played the game, which monitors and analyzes the responses.

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The Heart of Caregiver’s Resilience

Posted by on Oct 31, 2016 in Aging Parents, Caregiver, Poetry | Comments Off on The Heart of Caregiver’s Resilience

The Heart of Caregiver’s Resilience

Caregiver’s resilience is a mind set that guides action, an oath to meet failure and keep going, to rise above the unfairness of it all.

The last stanza of Henry Wadsworth Longfellow’s poem “A Psalm of Life” is an anthem to this resilience we so admire in all those who step up to do this work day after day:

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