Second-Half of Life Blog

Stuck in the Middle, Part 3

“We sail within a vast sphere, ever drifting in uncertainty, driven from end to end.” –Blaise Pascal Here we go again Karen said to no one in particular.  Three years of pleading, cajoling and yes, threatening her eternally suborn parents…

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Stuck in the Middle, Part 2

  The real voyage of discovery consist not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes…Marcel Proust On one level, middle age seems so obvious.  Youth has officially packed up and left the building, never to return.  Both shocked…

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This is what love looks like…

This is what love looks like across war, sickness, separation and finally death…none of those afflictions of life on earth were a match for the fierce and profound love these two veterans carried in their hearts and in their actions…talk…

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Stuck in the Middle

Thoroughly unprepared we take the step into the afternoon of life Carl Jung     My intentions for a number of years now has been to write a “second book” as a follow up to my first one.  This second…

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Growing Up With Toxic Parents

This quote by Susan Forward from her book Toxic Parents captures the essence of the emotional wound toxic parenting inflicts on children.  Recovery as an adult takes layers of patience and compassion as well as the context of sustained “healthy…

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Perfect Gift for Caregivers of Aging Parents

Below is the complete set, all 20 cards of the Aging Parents Dance Cards deck. Together, they offer bite-sized portions of David Solie’s philosophy, insights, reframing strategies and work arounds that all help to reduce the complexity and uncertainty of…

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TUG & CFS: Assessing Frailty Tools

TUG and CFA are two important tools that help clinicians and laypersons alike assess frailty in older adults.  Frailty status impacts the type and degree of healthcare, support services and living accommodations,   Below are links to each assessment tool and …

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We All Knew They Would Get Older

I’ve attached the first five tracks of my audio CD to this blog.  I recorded this 10-track CD at the request of an attendee at one of my presentations.  She told me that in her hectic world of endless transactions…

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Off Label with Nursing Home Patients

This disturbing investigation by CNN of the off label use of a medication on nursing home patients reinforces the responsibility of caregivers to know the names, dosages and the “exact medical reason” for each medication the older family member is…

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