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Control Assets

Posted by on Jun 25, 2016 in Aging Parents, Boomers, Caregiver | Comments Off on Control Assets

Control Assets

As aging boomers are quickly discovering, the end game of being old is a non-linear quest to preserve control against overwhelming odds. Namely, it’s the challenge of absorbing wave after wave of losses while simultaneously shoring up residual choices. Given the uncertainty and complexity of the game, what will help aging boomers succeed in their quest? Part of the answer lies in the quality of their “control assets.”

Control assets are game tools that help older adults overcome losses through tactical partnerships and recovery planning. They don’t change the game’s final outcome but they can dramatically alter the quality of the game’s experience. Control assets are best understood as essential resources and planning options that include:

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10 Questions Before They Move In…

Posted by on Jun 17, 2016 in Aging Parents, Boomers, Caregiver | Comments Off on 10 Questions Before They Move In…

10 Questions Before They Move In…

In the communal world of pre-WWII, aging parents almost always moved in. It was expected because there was usually a local family network that closed ranks and helped take care of the elders.

In the dispersed world of Boomers and the generations that followed, it became a different story. Minus the familial scaffolding, the challenges proved more daunting despite the desire to do the right thing.

It still may turn out to be the best choice for a family. But before they move in, a few screening questions will help clarify the scope and depth of what this choice involves.

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The Rejected Power of Attorney

Posted by on Jun 3, 2016 in Aging Parents, Caregiver | Comments Off on The Rejected Power of Attorney

The Rejected Power of Attorney

It turns out that the power of attorney you so carefully arranged for an aging parent may be rejected by their bank or brokerage firm because it wasn’t drafted on their form. Of course you find this out when your aging parent is incapable of managing his or her own affairs and ironically most likely deemed unqualified to sign a new form. This important article outlines the game plan for yet another inconvenient truth of the aging journey…

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Boomer Blended Style of Senior Living

Posted by on May 25, 2016 in Boomers | Comments Off on Boomer Blended Style of Senior Living

Boomer Blended Style of Senior Living

It appears boomers are willing to downsize into “blended” senior living communities that include ample amounts of fit as well as less fit residents. This article looks at one builder’s offering of how this might play out…

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Before Something Happens

Posted by on May 11, 2016 in Advisors, Aging Parents, Caregiver, Siblings | Comments Off on Before Something Happens

Before Something Happens

The car looms large in our aging parent’s lives but at some point it’s too much. The “No Longer Safe To Drive” mind map helps adult children figure out the tipping point of when to intervene as well as provides the data to back it up.

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The Dream

Posted by on May 7, 2016 in Aging Parents, Boomers, Caregiver | Comments Off on The Dream

The Dream

Every Mother’s Day I think about my mom’s dream. She longed for a big house on a lake filled with children and the buzz of life, friends dropping in unannounced, and laughter, lots and lots of laughter. Was not to be. Her life was dealt from a different deck.

Unabashed, she took it as it came with profound courage and loyalty in the face of losses and heartache. Above all, she instilled in me a kind heart the would not turn a blind eye to suffering. It saved my life.

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Healthcare Team Mind Map

Posted by on Apr 29, 2016 in Caregiver | Comments Off on Healthcare Team Mind Map

Healthcare Team Mind Map

Since healthcare in the United States is a specialist-driven system, aging parents wind up with provider teams. Overall, this is a good thing, but it creates two persistent challenges:

1. Keeping an accurate roster of providers, what they do, and the best way to communicate with them.
2. Keeping the providers on the same page regarding health information.

The second problem may seem odd. Isn’t the healthcare system integrated so changes in a patient’s health are automatically updated with the entire medical team? The short answer is no, and it would be a mistake to assume this is happening. The reality is that families need to play an active role in knowing the provider team as well as lending a hand to integrate healthcare information. This is why we created the Healthcare Team Mind Map.

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What’s the “game plan” for seeing the doctor?

Posted by on Apr 22, 2016 in Aging Parents, Boomers, Caregiver, Middle Age | Comments Off on What’s the “game plan” for seeing the doctor?

What’s the “game plan” for seeing the doctor?

When seeing the doctor, you can hope for the best or you can plan for the best. Either way, you’re going to put in the time taking care of your health.
The article below by an emergency room physician is big on preparation. It includes a list of 10 things she recommends you should bring to every doctor’s appointment.

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One Good Idea…

Posted by on Mar 29, 2016 in Aging Parents | Comments Off on One Good Idea…

This is the first in a series of 3-minute videos created for caregivers. They are designed to be illuminating and encouraging , one good idea amid the complexity and uncertainty of caring for aging parents

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End Of The Line…

Posted by on Mar 24, 2016 in Aging Parents, Caregiver | Comments Off on End Of The Line…

End Of The Line…

We take pains to keep the nursing home at arm’s length, a cultural purgatory that haunts our worst fears about being old. Yet, as Valery Hazanov found out, it is also an instructional landscape about who we are despite our predicaments and failing health, an inconvenient truth full of cautions and lessons that call out to us from the farthest reach of our earthly journey…

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