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Boomer Blended Style of Senior Living

Posted by on May 25, 2016 in Boomers | Comments Off on Boomer Blended Style of Senior Living

Boomer Blended Style of Senior Living

It appears boomers are willing to downsize into “blended” senior living communities that include ample amounts of fit as well as less fit residents. This article looks at one builder’s offering of how this might play out…

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Before Something Happens

Posted by on May 11, 2016 in Advisors, Aging Parents, Caregiver, Siblings | Comments Off on Before Something Happens

Before Something Happens

The car looms large in our aging parent’s lives but at some point it’s too much. The “No Longer Safe To Drive” mind map helps adult children figure out the tipping point of when to intervene as well as provides the data to back it up.

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The Dream

Posted by on May 7, 2016 in Aging Parents, Boomers, Caregiver | Comments Off on The Dream

The Dream

Every Mother’s Day I think about my mom’s dream. She longed for a big house on a lake filled with children and the buzz of life, friends dropping in unannounced, and laughter, lots and lots of laughter. Was not to be. Her life was dealt from a different deck.

Unabashed, she took it as it came with profound courage and loyalty in the face of losses and heartache. Above all, she instilled in me a kind heart the would not turn a blind eye to suffering. It saved my life.

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Healthcare Team Mind Map

Posted by on Apr 29, 2016 in Caregiver | Comments Off on Healthcare Team Mind Map

Healthcare Team Mind Map

Since healthcare in the United States is a specialist-driven system, aging parents wind up with provider teams. Overall, this is a good thing, but it creates two persistent challenges:

1. Keeping an accurate roster of providers, what they do, and the best way to communicate with them.
2. Keeping the providers on the same page regarding health information.

The second problem may seem odd. Isn’t the healthcare system integrated so changes in a patient’s health are automatically updated with the entire medical team? The short answer is no, and it would be a mistake to assume this is happening. The reality is that families need to play an active role in knowing the provider team as well as lending a hand to integrate healthcare information. This is why we created the Healthcare Team Mind Map.

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What’s the “game plan” for seeing the doctor?

Posted by on Apr 22, 2016 in Aging Parents, Boomers, Caregiver, Middle Age | Comments Off on What’s the “game plan” for seeing the doctor?

What’s the “game plan” for seeing the doctor?

When seeing the doctor, you can hope for the best or you can plan for the best. Either way, you’re going to put in the time taking care of your health.
The article below by an emergency room physician is big on preparation. It includes a list of 10 things she recommends you should bring to every doctor’s appointment.

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One Good Idea…

Posted by on Mar 29, 2016 in Aging Parents | Comments Off on One Good Idea…

This is the first in a series of 3-minute videos created for caregivers. They are designed to be illuminating and encouraging , one good idea amid the complexity and uncertainty of caring for aging parents

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End Of The Line…

Posted by on Mar 24, 2016 in Aging Parents, Caregiver | Comments Off on End Of The Line…

End Of The Line…

We take pains to keep the nursing home at arm’s length, a cultural purgatory that haunts our worst fears about being old. Yet, as Valery Hazanov found out, it is also an instructional landscape about who we are despite our predicaments and failing health, an inconvenient truth full of cautions and lessons that call out to us from the farthest reach of our earthly journey…

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Gray Divorce: It’s Not You, It’s Me…

Posted by on Mar 21, 2016 in Aging Parents, Boomers, Middle Age | Comments Off on Gray Divorce: It’s Not You, It’s Me…

Gray Divorce: It’s Not You, It’s Me…

“If you or someone you know recently divorced after 20 or more years together, you’re not alone. Splitting up later in life, sometimes called “gray divorce,” is on the upswing. In 2010, one in four divorces occurred among people age 50 and above and the 50-plus set was more than twice as likely to be divorced than in 1990, according to the National Center for Family and Marriage Research at Bowling Green State University in Ohio.”

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Boomers: It’s All How You Get There

Posted by on Mar 17, 2016 in Boomers | Comments Off on Boomers: It’s All How You Get There

Boomers: It’s All How You Get There

“The perception is that the baby boomers are very active — they are, you know, climbing up mountains, and they are a very healthy bunch,” says King, a professor in the department of family medicine at the West Virginia University School of Medicine. “We actually see people that are burdened with diabetes, hypertension, obesity, [and] who are taking an awful lot of medication.”

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Compassionate Body Guard

Posted by on Mar 8, 2016 in Aging Parents, Boomers, Caregiver, Middle Age | Comments Off on Compassionate Body Guard

Compassionate Body Guard

Our aging parents are not well matched for a healthcare system running on procedural autopilot. They need compassionate body guards who will help them make sense of their medical options based on their quality of life wishes and then help them enforce their choices. Being a compassionate body guard for an aging parent is not an easy calling. It requires sustained collaboration, extraordinary patience, continual sensemaking, and deep courage.

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