Second-Half of Life Blog




If I Die First…

Aging parents face an uneven future in which one will be left behind. FD Reeves’ poem “Home in Wartime” contains two elegant and inspiring stanzas of instructions for both possibilities… From “Home in Wartime” By FD Reeves If I die…

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Disclosure for Adult Children

I receive a steady flow of inquires from adult children about what the future holds for them and their aging parents.  Most of them sense some sort of tipping point is near and with it a turn of events where…

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Inconvenient Eulogy

  Inconvenient Eulogy  by David Solie   Even when things are going your way, Words don’t come easy on funeral day. Mourners turn up with guarded belief, Awaiting your words of pain and grief.   But others arrive with their…

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Resist Punitive Perfection

Pointing out errors of memory or cognition to our aging parents proves nothing…Period…We all will suffer the same fate when we are firmly in their shoes and we will equally resent being called out for something we can’t control…Instead of…

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Steady On…

Things periodically fall apart with our aging parents no matter how hard we try to avoid conflict.   Stay calm and let these episodes have their moment and then pass on. There’s no time to hold a grudge or prove who’s…

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And Take My Waking Slow….

  The Waking Theodore Roethke (1954) I Wake to sleep, and take my waking slow. I feel my fate in what I cannot fear. I learn by going where I have to go. We think by feeling. What is there…

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